Mark Manson (on «backward law»), The subtle art of not giving an F*ck Being aware of how backward law works doesn`t mean we should never set goals, never have ambitions, or never seek change. There are probably an infinite number of reasons why we should make a change and not accept the status quo. However, backward law teaches us not to be deceived by the idea that the pursuit of happiness leads to happiness. Quite the contrary. And with this knowledge, we are able to enter this state of happiness of «not wanting» a little more often. Because, as Alan Watts said, «the mystery of life is not a problem that needs to be solved, but a reality that needs to be lived.» If you`re able to go back in public without people noticing or thinking you`re weird. I know we`ve all heard of the law of attraction, the law of karma, but what about the backward law also known as the law of repentance? Knowing how backward law works doesn`t mean we should never set goals, have ambitions, or seek change. There are probably an infinite number of reasons why we should make a change and not accept the status quo. However, I don`t like to take this negative path, because if you really focus on it or focus all your attention on whether you are aware of it or not, it is true that according to the law of attraction, you really get exactly the attention you are focusing on.
Is it wealth? Is it love? Is it friendship? Is it a long and healthy life? Even if such things are pleasant; These are just cheap imitations of the real thing. These are the things that we believe will lead us to what we are looking for. But, as the retrograde law makes clear, the more we search, the less we find. The more we chase after these external circumstances, the further we will be from what we really want. So what do we want? Do we long for happiness? And if so, what is happiness? Is it something we acquire through things like love and material goods? According to Alan Watts, we don`t know what we really want because we can`t define it. I quote: But the backward law is not so much about worldly achievements – on the contrary, it goes beyond them. It`s about getting what we really want, really. This is the shortcut to the Holy Grail; the thing we are all looking for; The goodie. The difficult human situation is a collective deception that tells us that the realization of external things or the change of external circumstances, from objects to money, to the adaptations of the body to changes in scene, will fundamentally free us from our sense of lack. The retrograde law shows us that the opposite is true. We feel deficient because of our dissatisfaction with the current circumstances.
The greater our dissatisfaction, the more we suffer. The more change we need to be satisfied, the less satisfied we are. Imagine that you have set a goal for yourself, that is, you want to become a millionaire and you believe that it will make you happy. The backward law is very unique to me and is very different from the law of attraction. In fact, I personally believe that this is actually a much more powerful and progressive piece of legislation that, if we know how to live with it, can expect great results. Yes, it is actually very different and the opposite of how the appeal of the law works. In fact, I find it very helpful to follow both effective laws and the combination of the law of attraction with backward law! If we stop trying to be happy, we will be happy because there is nothing we need but what is. If we stop trying to be rich, we will live in abundance because we are happy with what we have, and anything that goes beyond that is a bonus.
Therefore, the only way to get what we want is not to want it. And that`s what backward law teaches us. There is a Zen story that illustrates this paradoxical idea by explaining how we can purify murky water. The law of reverse induction shows that the opposite is true. We feel deprived by our dissatisfaction with the current circumstances. The more dissatisfied we are, the more we suffer. The more change we need to be satisfied, the less satisfied we are. So, if we want to stop thinking about the pink elephant, in this case, the paradoxical solution is to abandon our fight and let our «desire to get rid of it» dry.
Instead of trying to forcibly remove the elephant from our thoughts, we let it disperse on its own and leave it alone. Well, how exactly does this retrograde law work in practice? Or more precisely, how do we get exactly what we want by not trying to get what we want? This article examines the backward law and its paradoxical nature, as well as the cause of our persistent dissatisfaction in life and how we can free ourselves from it. Ironically, the more we try to be less dissatisfied, the more we become dissatisfied. Could it be, then, that this tendency to be so interested in freeing ourselves from dissatisfaction, in trying to be happy, in trying to be satisfied, is exactly why we are not? Here we see the paradox of will, which is the basis of the «law of reverse effort», also called «backward law» by the philosopher Alan Watts. Retrograde law suggests that the more we pursue something, the more we realize the opposite of what we really want, and the more disappointed we feel. Or to put it simply, the more we try, the less likely we are to succeed. On the other hand, if we stop trying, we will have what we want. However, backward law teaches us not to be deceived by the idea that the pursuit of happiness leads to happiness. The opposite is true. And with this knowledge, we can enter this state of happiness of «not wanting», we will be happy when we stop trying to be happy and accept that we need nothing more than what we already have. If we stop trying to be rich, we will be able to live in abundance because we will be satisfied with what we already have, and anything extra will be a bonus. As a result, the only way to get what we want is to stop wanting it.
This is what the law of backwardness teaches us. There is a Zen story that explains how to clean up cloudy water, which illustrates this paradoxical idea. Thank you for taking the time to explain this in more detail! Apparently, the backward law is more of a concept created by Allan Watts. Now I believe 100% in the law of attraction, especially to attract women of all kinds, attract money from many different directions, because it is most likely attracted and not pursued, to attract your dream of getting in the way, etc. Remember, the less you care about it and the more you let it flow from what you want to come, the faster it should come! So that`s basically why it can work and it certainly does. When I discovered everything about this retrograde law, I tried it a very long time ago and felt positive effects, but not all the time! Another way to make the backward law work in your favor is to pursue the negative that could create the positive! The difficult human situation is a collective deception that tells us that the acquisition of external things or the change of external circumstances such as objects or money, physical adaptations or changes in the landscape will fundamentally free us from our sense of lack. As a result, we have a pathological desire for more than we need, driven by a constant sense of scarcity. However, you should also be a wise alpha stallion male and follow what I do here.
The problem is that few people know or are aware of this super-progressive and effective universal law, called the backward law founded by the popular philosopher Alan Watts. Practice accepting even the most negative experiences you`ve had. The next time you experience something that makes you feel a negative emotion like guilt, fear, or fear, say to yourself, «This experience makes me feel like, but that gives?» By acknowledging the negative experience, you can accept it as it is and turn it into a positive experience.